Follow Through

We cannot fully move on from a situation until we've integrated all the goodness that came because of it. Each situation has something valuable to offer. We won't be able to receive it if we are holding on to how things didn't go according to our liking. If we see the outcome only as a …

Clearing Judgments

There is value in letting others know how they've impacted us in profound and positive ways. It can act as a catalyst for them to clear up any judgment that they or others have misplaced on an aspect of themselves or on something they've done in the past. Hurting someone with our hands doesn't justify …

Move Forward

If a bridge appears for you to cross over to the other side, if a door opens up for you to move forward, if your ship has come - GO, DON'T HOLD BACK. It may look noble, but it's not a good idea to go back to the past, to walk through all the roads …

Forgive

Forgiveness is inevitable if one longs to be free and fully at peace. We may be blinded at times, mistaking our anger for self-love or self-righteousness, when in reality, it's our last ditch effort to hold on to the past, to cling so desperately to what's no longer serving us out of fear of the …

Finally, Release

Most of the time the pivotal moments in our life happen in solitude. Just yesterday while I was folding fresh clothes, I got at text message from my father - nothing extraordinary, he's simply asking me about the recent HK trip I had with my boyfriend. For some reason this gesture has touched me in …

Stuff like this you gotta learn the hard way – on Boundaries and Forgiveness

Sometimes the only way to teach others about asserting for their own needs is to assert our own needs first. I know, it's not always easy. It sucks. It can make you feel shitty. But I guess, self-determination, since it's also about separation, has to hurt for some time. Otherwise, it's not real. * I …